Most Christian singles talk about how they are waiting on God to give them their future spouse pretty often. We all want love and we want God to give us the right person to marry. We want God to bless us and sometimes we get angry when He doesn’t. I’ll be the first to admit it. I have been mad at God before because I felt He was taking too long to give me my spouse. It’s funny because when we get mad at God, we probably look like silly toddlers throwing a tantrum to Him. Read on to find out 8 things you can do while waiting on your God given spouse.
I want to ask you two big questions and take a second to think about them. What if God never gives you a spouse? Would you still love him anyways?
Hopefully, your answer is yes. God wants us to put Him first, not a spouse. I’ll tell you from experience, that it is possible to be happy with God and no spouse. I prayed to God many times after my last relationship a couple of years ago to help me to put Him first because I knew a spouse would never make me happy without Him being the center of my life. (After many failed relationships, I finally figured it out.) Not to say I don’t want a spouse, but if God never gives me one that’s okay. He has big plans for me that I am focused on right now.
Being single is actually a good thing. Check out 1 Corinthians 7:8. Paul says, “To the unmarried and the widows I say that it is good for them to remain single as I am.” It gives us time to get closer to God which is the number one reason why we are on this earth. That and to help others get to know Him as well.
Only God can truly make us happy. Ever seen a miserable married couple? Yea, they are everywhere. Having a spouse is not the solution to your problems. Even married Christians struggle. We will struggle our entire lives no matter what our relationship status is. It is better to embrace it than try to fight it and be angry about it because once we do, our perspective changes. It’s either cast our cares on God or let them pile up onto our shoulders. How many times have you fallen already?
God also wants you to work on yourself. Ask yourself this. Am I really ready for a spouse? And be honest because if you are single, that means you really are not ready. Not to mean that there is anything wrong with us, but that we have other things we need to focus on first. We have to do what God asks or we will keep waiting and waiting until we are old and gray. Hopefully, you’re saved. That is step one. Look at Acts 2:38 if you are not sure.
These reasons listed will also help you in your overall walk with God which should be our number one priority. God is very clear about us to putting Him first. “But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you” Matthew 6:33.
We need to work on doing that before we get into a relationship with someone. Wouldn’t it be awesome to have someone who loves God more than anything? Your partner wants that from you too, you know? No matter who you are, I promise your relationship with God could use some work. Everyone on this planet can improve their relationship with God. This life is a journey. Constantly trying to get to the next phase of it is just wasting your life.
I mean really does the alternative to waiting on God, and doing what He wants, sound better? Pick someone to date, be miserable, break up, repeat and then maybe get it right when you’re old. No, thank you. Here are some great things to do while you are waiting on God.
1.Read Your Bible more
Reading your Bible seems hard to most. Maybe it seems irrelevant to you in today’s society? The Bible is God’s LIVING word. That means God is using it to talk to you through it. If you have ever read than reread the same verse at a later time you have probably noticed that you got something entirely different out of it each time. How can we understand God if we don’t learn about him from the source He gave us?
I wasted a lot of time thinking I didn’t need to read the Bible but finally one day I got it through my head. It helps you to feel closer to God and closer to God is what he wants for your relationship with Him. We can NEVER have enough God, so don’t get complacent. We are not perfect and we need to go to the only one who is for guidance.
A two-minute prayer before bed is not going to cut it. How would you like it if someone who you loved only talked to you two minutes a day? You would want more and so does God. And do you pray the right way? That might be the bigger question for a lot of people. You need to develop a prayer strategy and get serious about it. If you haven’t watched the movie the War Room, you really should.
Fasting shows up in the Bible many times and for good reason. It helps people get closer to God. Even Jesus fasted. Now if we are trying to strive to be more like Jesus, shouldn’t we be modeling his behavior? Nothing in your Bible is by accident.
4.Go to church more
A lot of people today say they don’t believe in organized religion or they can worship God at home. “How, then, can they call on the one they have not believed in? And how can they believe in the one of whom they have not heard? And how can they hear without someone preaching to them?” Romans 10:14. The Bible is contradicting you. Now who do you think is right? The imperfect being or almighty God? I used to think I could worship God at home. I laugh at that mentality now. If I don’t go to church ATLEAST once a week I feel farther from God and my life gets chaotic. You can’t have too much of a good church. My pastor is amazing and is a vital key in helping me get closer to God.
Now you would be wise to be careful about what church you do go to. Is what they are preaching really Biblical? That’s up to you to read your bible and figure it out. In 2 Timothy 4:3, Paul says, “For the time is coming when people will not endure sound teaching, but having itching ears they will accumulate for themselves teachers to suit their own passions.” You should feel convicted by your sins in a church, not comfortable in them. Plus, where would be a better place to meet your spouse?
5.Pay your tithes
This is a big one no one wants to hear. Most people think churches are just out to get our money. The churches that are out for the money give the good churches a bad rap. I had never given more than maybe $10 here and there to a church before, but once my pastor gave a class on paying tithes it started to make sense. I won’t go into all the verses that say we should tithe but look at this one. Malachi 3:10 says, “Bring all the tithes into the storehouse so there will be enough food in my Temple. If you do,” says the LORD of Heaven’s Armies, “I will open the windows of heaven for you. I will pour out a blessing so great you won’t have enough room to take it in! Try it! Put me to the test!”
I don’t know about you, but I want God’s blessing in my life! A couple of us newbies decided to step out on faith and started paying our 10% tithes and 5% offering. A friend of mine ended up getting a promotion that week and it made up the difference of what he paid out! I somehow started having more money that I couldn’t quite explain. I hadn’t done anything different besides give to God. You can’t out give God.
We need to give because it helps the church be able to function. It’s unrealistic to think the church can function without money. There are so many people who have yet to be saved. Again, helping people get saved is our main mission! Just try it and put him to the test! You WILL see blessings poured out in your life. God gives us every dollar we have so when we don’t tithe like He commands, we are stealing from Him.
6.Be happy alone
If all you keep praying for is a spouse, how can you have time for anything else? And I will tell you from experience that thinking will drive you crazy! There is more to life than a partner! We all feel lonely sometimes, even people in relationships. You know what loneliness is? It’s God telling us to come to him. He doesn’t want you to feel lonely. He wants you to find comfort in his presence.
God will change you into the person you are meant to be. But you have to seek Him over everything else. None of us can change without Him. Believe me, I’ve tried and failed many times.
Now, try this. Write down everything you want in a spouse (I hope you have high standards or else this won’t work) now ask if you reflect what you want. That is a great start. Also, look at things like your self-regulation. Do you have to have the last word or do you blow up every time you are angry? Now, be honest. We all have problems that we need to work on. And that’s okay. With work, anyone can change.
Some people these days want to say you got to accept me as I am. And that’s why they are single or always with the wrong one. No good person wants anything less than an equally good person. The man of my dreams would have looked at me like I was crazy if I behaved the way I did now when I was 18. You ever wonder why you keep getting with the wrong ones? That is a reflection of self, either your lifestyle or what you feel you deserve. God is waiting patiently to help you.
8.Truly make God the center of your life
Everything I listed pretty much sums up to this. Put God first in your life. You have a lot to do, so when God sends you your soul mate you will be ready. And guess what? God is working on them too right now.
Make these things a habit and show God you love Him. He wants the best for you. Your spouse may not come for a while, but that’s okay. Don’t settle because you are lonely. And don’t just think because someone says they are a Christian that they are your soul mate. Talk to God about them and ask for Him to help you not to overlook something major.
A lot of people say they are Christians, but can they back it up? If they are out at the bar every weekend or have a lot of drama in their lives, they aren’t the one for you. And if you are out at the bar every weekend, ask yourself why? If you want God’s blessing on your life, you need to live a righteous life like He commands. Plus, all you are going to find there are the same kinds of partners that have continually failed to make you happy.
We may not always like to hear that we need to change, but that doesn’t mean we don’t need to hear it. You will never be happy with anyone unless you are happy with yourself first. Only God can do that for you.
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Will you incorporate any of these things into your daily life? Where are you at in your walk with God? Let me know in the comments below. God bless!
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